PS - I also don't have this dynamic with my husband, although he does possess some narcissistic qualities. Along with my psychological problems, my husband has rapid-cycling bipolar disorder and a host of serious medical problems, some potentially life threatening. So as you can imagine, it can be very stressful for both of us. But we love each other greatly, have been married for 31 years, and have both had 10+ years of individual therapy, plus a few joint sessions. We love each other enough to put in the hard work necessary to keep our relationship alive and healthy.