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Originally Posted by Marshellette
Last night I gave some random guy my number at the food place where I work. He seemed so baffled, he turned ten shades of pink and then just said, "Yeah, uh, sure whatever," and pocketed the number. He seems a sort of stoner dude. Long blond hair in a pony, a little sleepy. He didn't call last night. Think one day later that he probably won't?
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I can relate to this sort of worrying about dating and relationships. One thing I know won't change a thing is ruminating on the possibilities. He may or may not. I don't mean to be harsh.
Best thing to do in my opinion: Figure out what you might want in a partner or date. Then keep talking with men, asking for numbers etc.
Part of dating is a pure numbers game. I know that doesn't sound very romantic. It's also something you need to practice at. You will make mistakes. And some people won't like you for no reason at all. And that's ok.
All the while, and this is easier said than done, try to remind yourself of the things that make YOU a good person and potential partner. That is, find reasons that someone else might be missing out if they reject you. Try not to think in terms of "someone rejected because I am flawed in ways A, B, and C."
Signed: 30-something single-male and recovering ultimate relationship worrywart (anxious attachment style, low self-esteem, etc.).
Keep going. You'll find someone.
