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Originally Posted by hvert
How much time do you spend with your friends and what do you do with them? I'm struggling to find the right balance between friendships and the rest of my life. I do not have kids but have a boyfriend I've lived with for six years.
Lately I am getting a lot of invitations for outings that eat up nearly an entire day. Monday I went to the lake with a friend. Earlier this week I went out for a 'quick' visit to a farmer's market, but it wound up being a four hour excursion (my friend drove). Tomorrow I am driving that same friend an hour away to visit with another mutual friend and expect it will be another 5 hour trip. Someone has invited me to go out for coffee Friday night. Two different people want me to come see their gardens and want to come see mine-- both live 30-40 minutes away. Another friend wants to stop by for dinner as she passes through town. A friend I don't really want to see also suggested we get together. That's just this week!
Does this seem like a lot? It feels like a lot to me because I am an introvert -- and also work from home and need to be spending more time working and less time doing nothing with people I'm not even that fond of.
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I'm not sure by what frame of reference you want an answer. Is it a lot?
It's a pretty subjective question so many things to consider if you want to make a judgement on this. If you're basing it on what others do, it depends on the person. If you as another introvert they may have one answer, and an extroverted person may say something entirely different.
By what are you going to base this on, whether you're spending too much time with other people? Whether you're away from your bf too much?
You see your friends as much as you're comfortable with and as much as you find it enjoyable, I dont' know by what other scale you can base whether this is too much or not. There is no right or wrong answer to this at all.