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Originally Posted by sweepy62
I usually dont tell people how I feel, just in case, they dont feel the same way. Thats been an ongoing problem. Last session I told my t I appreciated our relationship, and her efforts, what I meant to say was I like you, and I look foward to sseing you weekly.
After every session she asks how we are doing, and how I think our sessions are going. I fear abandonment and rejection so, I dont tell people my true feelings, and when they tell me they love me or like me, I dont believe it, lol am I twisted?
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Only if I'm twisted, too. I have such a hard time believing others when they tell me positive things.
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Originally Posted by Mastodon
I guess the first question is: Why do you want to do this?
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Originally Posted by Mastodon
ok, reading the other responses (which were not there when I started to compose mine), I have to reiterate the question - why is this a desirable thing to do? When you say "Don't miss the chance to tell people what they mean to you." - what does that mean? What is the chance, exactly? I honestly, genuinely do not understand, and I would like to get some kind of theoretical understanding of this.
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I guess because it helps people feel closer to each other, let's them know you value and appreciate them, and tells them they matter to someone. When it's written out like this, it doesn't sound like a bad thing. But actually doing it? All these fears come up.