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Originally Posted by allme
Thank you all of you.
I have taken all what you have said and it has really made me think. We have both hurt each other in many ways..and I do think the way forward is therapy for us both as individuals and as a couple. This is something I am going to talk to him about once the dust settles.
I love him with all my heart and the last thing I want to do is hurt him. I love him and want him to be happy so will do whatever that takes.
I listened to what he had to say and I can see how living with me has taken its toll on him. I am very high maintenance and really need to learn to deal with a lot of stuff internally as I drain all his resources which leaves him unable to deal with his own 'stuff'.
I am sure we have the love and will to get through this and make it better for ourselves.
Thanks again
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He needs therapy, and i am surprised knowing you have bpd, he hasn't learned effective communication skills. So many people in this world merely suspect that's what's going on in marriage and try. Here you are, with a dx, to me, saying you are working on addressing yourself in therapy, and he hasn't bothered to learn???
Just sayin. Those were biting words and not words a partner aware of their significant others bpd, would say, if they were being actively supportive.
Because you are already in therapy, will he try couples counseling?
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