please don't mix any drugs & alcohol again, okay? you are worth so much more than that. i think it is fine to set some boundaries with this guy. i would tell him that i need some answers and will not be waiting around forever and shutting you out is not working. he is not being fair to you at all. personally, i'd put a time limit on this but i'm not sure if it's best to communicate that or not because that can come off like an ultimatum which isn't usually such a good idea. he may be stressed to the hilt but to shut you out like this really isn't cool.