I am in this situation now where my husband wants to separate after 16yrs marriage. We have two young kids. My husband earns a good living but has put us in debt due to his lavish spending. Recently he made us relocate 3x for work and I haven't worked for the last five years. We moved again where I could work again but by this point he had two affairs, burnt family bridges and asked to separate. He bullied me to put our house up for sale and go hire a lawyer because he didn't want to be seen as responsible for the separation although he initiated it. I went to a lawyer to protect me and the kids as I was not working. I am now but I make 1/3 of his salary and cannot get credit for a home, car as I am on contract. It's very messy. We live in the same home because we can't afford two homes. We even share a bed. But we have stopped being intimate as of our separation date which is 3 weeks now. He tries to get intimate with me and I tell him NO if we you have no desire to stay married and we are separating as per your wish I will not be intimate. He gets angry and packs his bags (3 occasions) to move out. He never does though. It's a game for him. He threatens to stop paying bills, etc too. Trying to see it from his perspective, I think he wants back but he's so ashamed with his actions that he would rather not apologize to me, family, the kids and would rather go ahead and divorce. He is very proud and egotistical. I just find it very hard to pursue the separation being in the same home especially when I have to discuss financials with him and he freaks out because he doesn't want to pay me anything although he legally has to. I remind him this is his decision, he made decisions and actions and they all have consequences. Good luck to everyone.