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Originally Posted by Illegal Toilet
We all say things we don't mean, so while it wasn't a very measured comment, it was understandable.
We should also bear in mind that we don't know the history of the relationship and things that have been done or said in the past, and so it's hard to judge just how disproportionate his comments might be  |
I am certain this was not their first conversation about this in their 15 years of marriage. Was his wording great? No. But was he being honest about how he perceives the effect on him? Yes. A person can only be so proficient in walking on eggshells for so long; occasionally you step on an eggshell and it crunches and makes noise. This was likely one of those occasions. The good news is that it looks to have allowed the OP to perhaps really awaken to the effect on BOTH of them which cannot be ignored in a relationship. Both people have needs and issues that hopefully will now be addressed.