So you base your assessment of this husband, on an entire relationship, a 15 year marriage, on one sentence? Really? That's a lot of assuming going on. None of us know what thousands of conversations, what work, what efforts, what events, have transpired in those 15 years.

I don't disagree that he is bound to need therapy and to work on his own issues, but do you expect him to be at the end of his therapy work when it hasn't yet begun?

This is a couple that needs time and help and lots of work. They seem to know that at this point. Unfortunately, it can take a long time for people to finally realize they need more help than they can provide for themselves. It's good that both seem to see the need now for help. That's a good thing.