Sunrise - I'm not sure if it is more for women and less for me. I'd be interested in hearing from some men on the subject. I took the quote from A Shining Affliction because it resonated with me and it was something that I hadn't been able to articulate. I think it's something that still needs to be worked out in the profession - that dichotomy, the dilemma.

I keep arguing comments like, "I am not going to be your friend outside of therapy." I'm not sure why exactly - it just seems so cold and compartmentalized. I have a problem with the idea that if I saw my therapist or psychiatrist on the street they wouldn't say hi to me and be friendly. And privately, someday, if/when I finish therapy, I'd like to be able to be friendly with that person - it's not unheard of. Well I do have boundary issues. Although - I don't think that applies here. Even if it does, I'd still argue over this. You don't just throw relationships or people away. Sorry, soap box, strong feelings ....