Being honest in his statement would be that she is doing things that hurt him. saying someone is scarring you fo r life is neither accurate nor fair. Again, to minimize how someone says things to another is just silly. Much of conversation breaks down not because of intentions or meanings behind the words but the actual words used.

I would not get hurt by someone saying that they were offended by something I did or hurt but if they said I'm the reason they are scarred forever would.

your arguments are on his intentions but most times intentions are not what cause resentment, arguments and pain in relationships. If we always knew what the other meant in their words wow, we'd all be much happier with our partners and friends but unfortunately it is about the words.

I am sure she knows, and I know this is true from many hours of talkign to her, that she knows she hurts her husband and isn't always a perfect wife, that is not a question in my mind.. But if you look at the conversation even in brief and really pay attention you'll realize taht her whole reason for posting isn't about the fact that she falls short and hurts him. Taht is a given and she knows this, it's all about WHAT HE SAID!

Don't get me wrong, I am sure there are good thigns about her husband and I know that, but the fact is that he does need in this case, to stop being a victim of her and not be blaming her for his unhappiness.