I can only share from the recovering alcoholics perspective. They told me in treatment to join AA when I got out and that my recovery had to come first. When I was new in recovery I was very selfish about it. I went to tons of meetings and it is all I thought about. My wife felt very left out and jealous of all my new friends. She feared I would meet someone new. You can support her by supporting and encouraging whatever aftercare and treatment plan they come up with for her.

I would strongly encourage you to go to alanon and to not lose yourself in her process. You have to take care of yourself. Alanon you go to for yourself and your well being but it also allows you to participate in what she is going through. I would also suggest couples counseling or a couples group.

I have to warn you that the dynamics of the relationship may very likely change. In my experience it takes a lot of work by both parties for the relationship to grow in recovery.

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