Btw, when you said we look for qualities we don't have - that is the whole point, we like the opposite because it is something we recognise needs work on from ourselves.... Once we can recognise that, then we will stop trying to find someone to full that void, as we simply would have already filled it in ourselves. Thus, that is why the Ts say it is a case of loving yourself, because once you fix that aspect, you will then love yourself.

Look at everyone as a "lesson, a blessing or true love"