I've seen many, many strong, healthy, loving, respectful, loyal marriages. My parents are in their 63rd year of marriage and I admire them and their depth of love for each other more than anything. I grew up around family and friends where marriages routinely last well over 50 years. And each and every one of them were models of long term commitment, loyalty, honor, love, etc. My husband and I are in our 27th year of marriage and while not a perfect marriage, our commitment and love for each other helps us live through and work through whatever difficulties come our way. I think sometimes that ability to actually work through and persevere through life's difficulties has much diminished in younger generations. People think marriage should be all rainbows and butterflies when in actuality it is hugely difficult work, but it is so worth the effort to learn to work through those difficulties and come out the other side even stronger for it. No, no one should stay in an abusive relationship. Not at all saying that. But those vows are serious ones that shouldn't be tossed aside easily either.