Yeah, it is unfair. He is fully immersed in his own deal. At some point he will wake up from this after all the dust settles and wonder what happened. (I'm serious, he won't know) and you have to decide if you are going to be there to ask or not.
Good to know you can write it down and Not send! It does help get some of the turmoil out but it doesn't answer the questions.
Wish I could wave a magic wand over him (or smack him with it~ KIDDING)

Best to you B