Hi Freewill,
I had a freind who suffered abuse and rape from her husband. It was hard for her to accept it and heal, but she is making it. Matter of fact, she is doing really well. At the time, it was really hard for me to support her. It seemed everything I said was so...I don't know, like all I could do was encourage her and tell her I cared, but I always felt like words were not enough. I know I probably should not say this--violence does not help and it is not the answer--but I got so angry I wanted to beat the crap out fo the jerk. She had to heal on her own time. I was sexually abused--I can understand a bit of what you are going through. Yeah, I can relate to the silence from people who are suppose to help--doctors and such. Good for you for saying no to Easter dinner with him. Stay strong--it sounds like you are on the road to recovery. Good post--keep posting! Send me a message if you ever want to talk or vent or whatever.