Most days of my life, I feel exactly how you feel--not thought of or needed. None of my "friends" share their important milestones or troubles with me. I usually hear about them long after they've happened . . . or perhaps never at all. In this case, however, as an outsider looking in, I'll say, give her time to come to terms with whatever the issue is. I have a friend who didn't tell me about her major illness until 2-3 months after she got her diagnosis. I was hurt, but then I understood her reasoning and looked past my hurt to try to support her through it.

Anyhoos big hugs for you. I totally know how you feel.