Hi friends,

I have a situation which I need some male perspective on. My female friends, feel free to comment too.

Okay, so there's this young musician who stops by whenever he visits his family in the neighborhood. Once upon a time, I used to see him everyday and based on his behaviour (kisses and hugs and flirting), I assumed he wanted a relationship. I was willing to give it a try until he said he just wanted to be friends. So I drew back. Just weeks after, he kissed me (again). I reminded him we were just friends. His response was: "Did he sign off to that on paper?" I ignored him then followed up with an email saying I wasn't interested in an intimate relationship. By that time, I'd already started having reservations about him, especially since he's a musician and doesn't express his feelings well. Anyway, he never responded to the email. But since sending it, I noticed his visits became less frequent. I wouldn't see him for weeks at a time, and when I did, he'd just sit and quietly watch tv.

After a few month's absence, he came by a couple days ago. He stayed over until morning. We had breakfast. He hung around some then left. Trust me when I say we did nothing intimate. He tried to make a move once that morning, but I blocked him and he instantly refrained.

We've known each other for almost 9 months. He's never asked me out. He introduced me to his family who I get along with, but not his friends. He's 12yrs younger than me (in his early 30s). He's not forthcoming with his intentions, and I'm not holding my breath, hoping he'll come clean. If I'm honest with myself, I'd say that deep, deep down, I like him, but I keep thinking he's just hanging around hoping to get sex. What do you think? Should I run him away?