I agree with all the above. Let the professionals help with the eating disorder and just be there for support. I currently attend and ED clinic and yes my fiance worries but he doesn't try to fix me. He knows I'm getting help and that I'm trying. He gets frustrated but it helps that he knows what I'll eat and when I can't get food for myself will go get it for me. Or will go grocery shopping for me. It is the small things. Keeping her distracted from her thoughts. Loving her at her worst.