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Originally Posted by SkyWhite
That's what I'm talking about ladytiger. She rarely talks about anything else, at least when she's talking to me. I can understand someone wanting to share their troubles now and then and get support like we do on PC, which is the appropriate venue for that, but she seems to revel in dredging up the past.
One thing I learned in therapy is that you can't blame your childhood on every misfortune. Sometimes we have to take some responsibility for things or at least recognize that life sucks sometimes even if our childhood was stellar. She'd never go on a forum like this. She will never get therapy. She doesn't do emotions and is pretty shut down in that regard which I understand is because of her abuse. Anyhow, she's going to have to find another emotional punching bag because I'm done.
But what my post is all about is why would someone want to do this and literally freak out when someone asks them nicely to stop? What pleasure can they get from it?
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My ex-therapist said that about not blaming your childhood. i told her I disagree because who's fault is it if you let your kids be endangered or killed? There has to be some accountability on the parents/relatives side and if you made your kids' lives hell, then it's the parents fault especially when you are a minor and nobody isn't helping the child. I just disagree, but that's just me.
My mom complaining about the past, it is over and done with still complaining about my dad and his nasty *****s yet isn't willing to do anything about it. She says i am moving, says that every year been saying it since 96. she was suppose to get a divorce in 97 when i was 11 and had to take my dad back so i can "have a dad" and "have my future college education paid" since she didn't wanna be a single mom and really she didn't wanna go find a job!!
She is still stuck at 67 years old with absolutely nothing. everyday or any time she and dad get into it, it goes back into the past! who cares it means absolutely nothing to us not like we got any money out of this mess! so, didn't benefit us at all. she would call my sister long ago complaining about the same crap, stuff she did/said when she was younger, etc. my mom gets enrage when you don't care always dangling invisible money that we haven't seen yet. my dad still comes and goes while he pleases (the one with the assets from hi ex-employer) and mom screams at about how nobody helps her (she cursed/talked about everybody including her own "children") gee wonder why nobody wants to help her plus she lies on everybody.
she claims she got it under control yet still isn't divorced, being on her own (never lived on her own prior to meeting my dad), and enjoys being miserable. my mom well both parents don't believe in therapy as my mom said it's the white man trying to get into our biz and as blacks we can figure out our problems. really? how come i see a child either dead, prison, or in foster care? how is that solving our own problems when you can't seem to talk to your own damn kids about your childhoods! everybody is tired of hearing the same old drama yet there's no real action on her fault. she told me why should i give up what's rightfully mine? i've been married to your father for 46 years of marriage and i am entitled to his assets. i am content because i still get money from him (she gotta fight about it while he'd rather give it to his illegal wife), insurance, a roof over my head, etc. wow, funny how most people don't think that isn't a bad parenting i am appalled when i hear that!
my brother told me mom screwed that up long ago she is on her own as all of us agreed she is on her own with her so called divorce.