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Old Jun 22, 2014, 04:06 AM
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Originally Posted by unlockingsanity View Post
I just wanted to say that forgiving is more for the person who was hurt than the person who did the hurting.

Forgiving is choosing not to let yourself to be continually hurting over something that happened because of someone else.

It helps to unlock yourself from that person and move forward in a new direction.

It doesn't mean they deserve the forgiveness or that you have to forget. No one forgets, but you can choose to focus on other things to the point where you think less about what happened and more about where you're going now.

For me, I decided that I wasn't going to let one person have that much control over my life, in regards to the hurt and anger I felt. I chose to let go because holding onto that hurt is a lot harder than letting it go. That might sound backwards, I realize, but it is true.
This is what Lewis B Smedes is all about. Forgiveness is more fore us that the hurter. I couldn't wrap my head around the concept, but I know others can.