I am so sorry you were subject to that depth of scrutiny. In real life and even in here you don't have to share anything that you are not comfortable with. Some people, in the real world, depending on their role may be asking for research or study purposes etc. Unless it is your personal doctor or therapist (and even then you may not be ready) you are always allowed to say I am not comfortable sharing that. Protect yourself.

When I was in a clinic and medical students were asking to speak to patients, those people were given the option of saying no. Some of the patients were just out of bounds. I have learned to tell some people that if they want that information they will need to discuss it with my psychiatrist. You don't need to be retraumatized just because they happen to be 'interested' in your life. I wonder how quickly they would scuttle away if you started asking personal questions about them.

When the time for healing comes you will safe with that T or P'doc. (Maybe scared) But you will feel safe.