Hey TJ, spending time talking to your wife and calming her down is absolutely not nothing!!! That's massive!!!
You didn't call at a bad time, you called at an excellent time.
It had to have meant a lot to her to hear your calming voice when she was so upset/worried, it sounds like you definitely made a big difference to her!! And for you........dig down deep in yourself hey, for that real good feeling that you were able to really (in a meaningful way!!) help her. And you managed to control what you were feeling when you were talking to her (at least a little?), now in that sort of situation........I'd call that a victory!!!!
And it really is good that things are starting to look/feel a bit better for you now......as ever........give yourself loads of credit for that!!!!

Alison