Yes, I was thinking about that. I think it's a great idea. I'm actually not at all worried about confidentiality on my end, and would be relieved to know I would get a call if she passed or if she were disabled to the point that she couldn't contact me for a long period.

I'm just not sure of her current situation: I know she does continuing education courses, and I know she has lunch monthly with a former colleague, so those may be possible avenues.

I let her know I'd really like us to sort something out, and I'll have to trust her to work on this.

If anyone has ideas too, I'd be very grateful.