I made another appointment with the divorce attorney for July 1st, after he disappeared for four days and turned off his phone.

musicalsweety, what keeps you with your husband?

Also, just curious, random questions, is he passive aggressive or does he stonewall? I was reading articles about the passive aggressive spouse and stonewalling and they reminded me of my husband. He is a gentle, wonderful person in so many ways. I am learning about boundaries and taking responsibility for my life and choices. It's hard to leave someone who does so many things that I enjoy and appreciate and respect, and we have great compatibility. I am just realizing how true it is that a marriage isn't only about great sex, laughter, compatibility, common interests, etc.; it's about being partners in a way that nourishes both of you. And him abandoning me for a week whenever I get snappy or critical and it hurts his feelings puts my life on hold. It may seem petty when I type it out, but it's really damaging and disrespectful and it isn't likely to stop.