(((hugs))) Such stressors!!!!!
Ok... ask your hubby to book them into a motel/hotel for the visit (that's really taking care of things there
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Tell or discuss what gift for the birthday... and let hubby get it. (Is it for you? That would be kewl!) You don't have to have the party at your home either btw... just tell hubby it would stress you out too much, so he can "take care of it" that way.
Don't drop the presentations. Remember, everyone (even me) gets a bit anxious before any public speaking...we all want to do our best. Well...you will do your best for the situation. How prepared are you for this? Do you have someone who can handle the handouts etc for you? One of the things that can be really stressful are questions from the group. I used to put a "burning question" box or bag out in the room and tell them in the beginning to hold all questions, write any they think of on a card and put it in the box during break... and they'll be answered by the end of the presentation/time whatever... or emailed even !