i am so sorry that this has happened to you........i'm of the opinion that if a spouse is sharing intimate details about his/her marriage with someone else.....it's emotional cheating. which usually moves to physical cheating. it's almost a mutual grooming that men and women do to get something started....that's my opinion.....you throw out a line or two and see where the conversation goes.....

you deserve to know what he's up to and we're all here for you. i know this is scant support, through the computers, but we are with you on this.....know that......love you, pat