People form the ability to make healthy connections with others early on in life.

If that ability is compromised, such as children growing up in domestic violence and abuse, it makes the behaviors of the adult survivor seem very strange to those who haven't ever experienced long term trauma, captivity and abuse.

In actuality it's nothing more than the coping mechanisms that were learned in order for the child to survive the horrific environment they were growing up in.

Of course, these types of behaviors don't serve the adult survivor very well, and for those of us lucky enough to get treatment, the recovery process is long and arduous.

Also, many treatment providers are now referring to survivors of these kinds of traumas as having Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder instead of Borderline Personality Disorder.

Sincerely,
Pfrog!