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Originally Posted by 3xjj
When I have a problem, I like to share, but I don't really want someone to give me advice. I'm sure you've heard that women want someone to listen, and men try to fix things. I wonder if that might be part of the hesitation.
I also agree with the above posts that she may not be able to talk yet with anybody and that you have to be open and vulnerable to get open and vulnerable.
Last thought... Your signature says "many addictions." I don't know what kind of addictions or if you're in recovery from them, but I shy away from sharing with my addict friends (I can share why if you're interested.)
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That'll be great, thanks, you can PM me if it'll be better for you. Thing is, I am quite a good listener, it's a uncharacteristic trait in a man I know, but I can do it. Many people have unloaded to me in the past, but it's like then they are embarrassed or something and turn away from me again. I sometimes feel like a stepping stone rather than a helper.