Thank you for your responses.

so i guess there isnt any general rule on how to go about this since every person is different and will take it differently.

i was wondering if it was best for them to find it out sooner or later and how, but in the end if they dont accept it, they wont accept it whether they found it out at the beginning or later or in whichever way they would come to know, so not much difference as for the timing or mode really. right?

i guess i'll let the instinct and the situation choose for me.

if you have some experiences you feel like sharing i'll be glad to hear them.
anyway, thank you for listening.