I have never really expressed anger with my T in any way that felt particularly meaningful. I am very bad at expressing anger in general - it was completely forbidden for me to do that when I was growing up, and I was always very scared of signs of anger in other people. A few tims I have told T afterwards that I was angry with in in a previous session, or after a previous session. Once or twice I have managed to tell him that I am angry with him in the moment. He has told me that he sees it as a very positive thing that I can tell him that. But it doesn't feel as if I'm actually expressing the anger, I'm just talking about it dispassionately.

My T has said that the only thing that is out of bounds is physical violence. He won't send me away for shouting at him. But I cannot imagine ever doing that. (I can't imagine shouting at anyone!)