I think you are putting too much weight on his reactions and not enough on what you want. You were as quiet as you could be when he was trying to sleep and you know that. That he did not sleep was his problem, not yours, you did the best you could to facilitate his sleeping. You cannot control what he will say, how he will say it, etc. and wanting a particular response worded in a particular way that you hear a particular way, all without telling him, "Gee I'd rather you said, 'That's great, go out and have a great time'," is asking a bit much? He sounds snarky to you but that does not mean he is/is not, he may just be a lousy kidder. I would have kidded back, especially about the "competition," probably throwing in some highly unlikely sexual innuendos while I was at it to further amuse him. I would not "tell" him when I was going out, I would invite him too, making it sound so "girly" he'd beg me not to make him go with :-) and promising to tell all the good gossip when I got home around 9:00.