I think it was Growly Cat who posted a link that explains how BPD can manifest in 800 or so different ways using the DSM list of symptoms...(where are you Growly?)

Like others, I think it would be a PD; Borderline to be specific. Borderline and Anti-social are more alike than not. Both have self-destruction and impulse control issues. Females are usually dx Borderline and males Anti-social. They express differently-females are less aggressive, cultural mores, etc. The only difference I see is that people are often dx anti-social when they commit crimes (whether or not they are caught).

What is it that is bothering you? Please say more!

*anti-social is different from sociopath