From what I remember about your T, she is the one letting the problems 'happen'...Of course you are going to try to act out/re-enact childhood issues..but she is supposed to stop them and point them out to you and help you examine them. She, instead, let you act things out. Yes, it happens often with people who have PDs, but the therapist is supposed to know better. All therapists make mistakes, but its important for her to own them, help reconcile, and move forward.