My daughter's best friend/sister, our best frinds child, Had a kidney transplant one year ago because of a congenital defect. She had been on dialysis for 1 1/2 years before that . She found out this morning that she has a lymphoma. This is not uncommon with people taking immune suppresive drugs for anti rejection. She will be 17 in Oct. My daughter and I went up to see her at the hospital 1 1/2 hours away. When we walked in dad told us the news. My daughter cried all the way home and says it's not fair, she has suffered so much, why does this happen to her. Her mom came back from an errand while we were there and hugged me so tight. My daughter told her she looked worse then the kid. When we left the hospital both of the parents held my daughter close. They are worried about her, as am I. But I feel for the first time in almost 17 years of this child's illness, hopeless. I feel frightened and sad and can't comprehend she will beat this one. She also developed diabetes as a result of the anti-rejection drugs. I have always said she is a strong kid and fights hard. She is amazing, a sick kid who pushes heself to excel and create and be a part of the things she enjoys. I have not heard pity from her. Just resolution. She is trying to protect mom. And there is not a g.d. thing I or my daughter can do. We will visit daily. Make her laugh, keep her supplied with DVDS. Love her, love her parents. Do farm chores as necessary for the family. We will be there. and it all sucks. I can't stand the pain of seeing her and her family and my daughter. I can handle it, how can I help them? How can I explain the unfairness of the world to my youngest child. When the transplant happened last year it was at a hospital several hours away. My daughter would not visit. She wouldn't visit because she was afraid her friend would die. Now she may have to watch her do just that. It ain't fair. My daughter has enough trauma and difficulty in her life. It ain't fair, this child has sat through horrible tortures in the name of treatment for her non-functioning kidney's. Then she learned to be a diabetic. And now this. We don't know until tomorrow if it's spread. Right now it's in her throat and esophogus. We'll know if there are other sites. It is agressive and fast moving. First sign was a sore throat two weeks ago. This is too much to hold onto. and I don't know of anything I can do but be there.