I'm not really sure what I'm asking exactly ... I seem to have been thinking on and off lately about the idea of change as a result of therapy ... whether it leads to short term change or long term change, or any kind at all; what it is about therapy that helps people to change.

I suppose a bigger question for me personally is what is missing in not making the changes I need to make; what I can do to overcome this; what has to happen within and outside of therapy; and a sense of personal frustration

For now, possibly I'm asking things like have you changed as a result of therapy; what helps you to change; what does your therapist do that has helped in connection to lasting or temporary change; are there things that would help that are missing from your therapy?

Sorry to be unclear but hopefully someone can understand what I'm asking