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Originally Posted by CameraObscura
How well do you know your therapist?
I'm asking because my thinking is this: my therapist listens to me, focuses on me, and is unflappably gentle with me, the whole time I spend with him. If I started to feel like I was falling for him, that would make sense, especially if I were physically attracted. But - I don't really know him. I don't know what he's like when he walks out of his office, I don't know what he's like when he's cranky and tired and needy. I don't deal with his needs the way his friends and family do. Since I only know his professional face, I'd be feeling love for his professional face, and that gets into transference territory.
I do believe there's a kind of real love that develops with therapists and clients who work together for a long time, but that it is contained in the therapeutic frame and within the appropriate boundaries. I don't think that is transference. They feel different.
My .02. 
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I know for 3 years. I hate to focus on myself, i dont need a robot who just sits there and listens to me and says he cares about me.
I dont know how well i know him and what exatly i have to know about him to know him well. He is honest to me and told me also some personal things.
I know what person who is outside an office because his workmate told me (i know its not good but his workmate was the first who started to talk about him).
There are things that i like and what i dislike in him but it doesnt change the fact that i truly love him.