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Originally Posted by Perna
Attraction is instinct, not about "Love". Yes, one can choose to follow through on any attraction they wish to but most do not choose to do that when it is not likely to go anywhere. Real love requires a lot of work and mutual commitment. Relating to and enjoying another person and working with them and being in their company, etc., even being attracted to them sexually is not "love" that one pursues despite what the other wants or the circumstances dictate. A one-sided "love" of that nature is obsession or stalking.
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I agree with you.
But love starts with attraction. We can find attractive more than just one person but attractiob can fade away very fast or it can be turned to love. I love him. At first i see him as atractive man and had great contact, felt so good with himm (he was my psychiatrist who i saw officially for 15 minutes but sometimes longer, he wasnt my therapists at the begining ) and when he became my therapist i saw him every week not twice a mounth and then i start to feel something more than just attraction, i fell in love with him and now my f feelings are grown stronger.
So im sure its not transference.