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Originally Posted by 1914sierra
I guess I've never really idealized my therapist, but then, I am not one to idealize people in general. Even my parents, who probably come as closed to the "idealized" people in my life, haven't ever been perfect in my eyes. I think the one person in my life that I idealized at one point was probably one of the people who abused me, so I got over the fantasy that people can be perfect a LONG time ago.
For me, it's been important to see that all people, no matter how wonderful they may seem, are merely human and have their quirks and issues and make errors in their lives. I try to keep a very balanced perspective about people, an ability to see their humanness, both positive and negative, and realize neither side really exists without the other.
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It sounds so wonderful if you're able to do that. It's what I try to tell myself a hundred times. And everyone knows that every single person has some more negative aspects too... But I simply don't seem to manage to add them to the picture if they're out of sight. It's a lot easier with friends, because you spend more time together of course. With a T... well, it's complicated.
I wish I was better at it. Or that she would simply take some more risks, challenge, frustrate and upset me a bit more. It could help.
