I know how hard it is to look after number one without being "insensitive" to other people around me. Believe it or not, other people usually don't notice of what I think of as insenstive because they expect people to do what they would do (and put themselves first). So as long as you do your best by other people when you can, there is no harm in looking after your needs too. When there is a "taker" in your life you just have to make sure that they don't get wind that you are putting yourself first for a change, smile sweetly and let them think they have won but go ahead and be yourself when they're not looking. Above all, never, ever feel guilty for being yourself. No matter what c**p the difficult people throw at you, that is their problem not yours. You are a kind, sweet natured, big hearted bear who deserves happiness and hugs.