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Originally Posted by CameraObscura
I went back and read some more about your relationship with your therapist.
She could lose her license if her confidentiality breaches were reported. I have a lot of strong words about her behavior, but that's neither here nor there. If you want to hear them, I'll share.
She has a clear self-interest in keeping you away from here, where people will point out that she's acting unethically. I don't think you can trust that she is recommending that for your benefit.
I know it's hard to hear people criticize someone who matters so much to you, but I hope you at least make some appointments for consultation with another therapist to evaluate whether she's helping you.
I'm sorry you're going through all of this. Consistent, clear boundaries and confidentiality are the bedrocks upon which helpful therapy is built.
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I just want to say that this post concisely describes what I think about your relationship with your therapist. GenCat, everytime you post, my heart skips a beat because I generally feel *unsafe* for you. Not physically, but in terms of emotional harm.
I know I don't know what goes on in the therapy sessions, but from what you are describing (again, I don't know her "side"). I think the following has happened:
1. Your T who already has poor boundaries went through a tough time in her life (this is NOT an excuse, all therapists are humans and thus, struggle).
2. She crossed ethical/professional boundaries with you
3. You hinted at beginning to realize this
4. She is freaked out that you might file a complaint or even "abandon her" (she might have attachment/enmeshment issues of her own)
5. She is know "backtracking", either implementing firmer boundaries she didn't implement before, or isolating you from people who are telling you things "against her".
Please think of the following, people in this forum have nothing to gain from being concerned about your therapist. We are neutral strangers. Your therapist, however, has everything to lose. Most importantly, I can tell you know in your "gut" that what folks say here is true. I know it's very scary and overall disappointed. When a T doesn't "live up" to professional standards, it can feel like a betrayal.