Start little. Just state your current feelings. "I am sad" Then tell him what you need. "I need a hug then I want to take a bath by myself." Then let him comply with your wishes. Sometimes he will push then simply tell him. "I am not ready to talk about it. Let me write it or let me just feel it for awhile." I know that this doesn't seem like a monumental thing. It doesn't fix your trust issues. But if you can do this once then you will do it again and it will carry over to other more difficult topics. Just the other day I was ask my husband something and the way he was standing me my chest tighten and instead of regressing, pulling away because I couldn't trust that posture I simply told him that his posture led me to believe that he was angry at being asked to do something. He looked down at himself and realized that it was a stance he uses at work and didn't mean to convey the message he was sending to me. It takes practice on both sides. You have to practice giving and he will have to practice recieving. They often say they want us to open up to them but don't realize that our learning to open up requires them to also learn how to recieve what we are giving. It is a difficult dance to learn but well worth the effort.
Carrie

<font color=blue>The important thing is this: to be able at any momeent to sacrifice what we are for what we could become.--Charles Du Bos