It's a good thread, tigergirl. I'm not sure how my ts have gotten me to change. I think a lot is due to having confidence in me when I didn't. They encouraged me to take risks to enable change to happen. I used to be so afraid to talk in therapy and would never be able to identify my feelings. That changed but it was slow. I learned to express my needs and to tolerate and even enjoy hugging people. There have been many changes. Hopefully I am starting to change my pattern and will be able to work through my attachment problem. That's been the hardest to change.