I think when most people say normal they really mean "average"... as in not standing out from the crowd in ways that they don't want to.

Like... I've learned how to "act" normal. So I don't stand out. When I was younger, I stood out because I was sooo quiet and reserved most of the time... and then babbling and talking a mile a minute at others. It made me stand out amongst my peers as a kid. And I hated it.

Then again - when I start talking about my interests and show my personality in social situations, I do tend to stand out because my main interests lay outside the average in the town that I live in. My experiences have been different. I'm totally ok with not being their normal, because I have really enjoyed those experiences and I like what I like.

I think a lot of it comes down to what was choice, and what just happens. Things I choose that are different I'm fine with. But when I just stand out about things that I don't want to stand out for... then out comes the "I wish I was more normal!". And in relationships - I wish I was more normal and less... affected by my past? But I'm learning, and I'm getting better!