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Originally Posted by stopdog
Things like it is okay because your father is proud of you (how the hell would she know whether he is or not - she has never met him) - then she tried to go on and say something about how fathers are - some general crap that she has no idea about mine.
Or
"They find you kind" or "you are tender with her"- how the eff would she know?
What difference does it make to me what she thinks? What am I supposed to do with idiotic statements like those?
- I just want the woman to shut up and listen to me. Not utter complete useless nonsense that she knows nothing at all about.
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It sounds to me like it feels dangerous for you to be seen. I remember feeling that way about my fist computer programs at my first job. I felt exposed, open to judgment. As a lawyer, your work always had something to back it up, so you could escape that feeling. But i would wonder what WAS dangerous about being noticed at home, and if there isnt some gasp transference going on. Because people will infer stuff from what you are saying, darn them! But i always felt like the LAST thing i wanted was for my mother to get involved in something i was doing.