TYMBERWOLV: When you get emotional attached to someone online and share the intimate parts of your life witrh them that can be considered adultry

Not necessarily. After all, I've seen a great deal of affection and emotional intimacies shared in this environment alone.

One could say that it's not an emotional affair according to gender and sexual orientation, e.g., if two heterosexual women are being emotionally intimate with one another, it's not an emotional affair -- but these kind of friendships can erode marriages too. What's more, many men and women are supportive and emotionally intimate with the opposite gender and they don't have affairs with one another. Even the presence of love cannot determine if a relationship is an affair. I assure you, I love my friends -- they're good people and they've been a good friend to me, but I don't want to marry them, I don't want to have sex with them, the love we have between us is not romantically based.

I think what sets this relationship apart from those described is that secrets were kept and plans were made to meet. It's always possible that those plans never would have come to fruition or that even if they had, one or both parties would not be able to go through with the act. Nonetheless, this relationship was certainly headed in the direction of a full-fledged affair. Hopefully, it will never have the opportunity to go there because both people will disengage, turn around, and begin to work on their own marriages so that their spouse is meeting their needs in accordance with a romantic love relationship.