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Originally Posted by Forwardinreverse
thanks for your reply!
That's exactly what I thought!! And I'm hoping to experience this one day too...
It seems so much 'easier' not to have that perfect image and the fear of it being shattered anymore. A bit like a family member you know through and through... You can afford to make some mistakes and they won't walk away. Or like a good friend you don't always have to agree with... I'd love to have that kind of relationship.
But I'll get there... eventually, I hope. :-)
Do you have the impression your T's behavior changed too? Well, I bet it did, if you work together for years. But did you have the impression he or she took more risks somehow? Or became more open and spontaneous because there was no need to be that reserved anymore? Just wondering how you experienced that.  |
Times this happened have been quantum leaps for our relationship. They are usually accidental because he tries to keep such close freakin control over what happens. I think they are necessary just because my parents were such control freaks with me and barely interacted with me, and t's wanting that kind of control just reenacts the abusive situation for me and makes me freeze up and act weird - dissociste, probably, deer in the headlights, waiting for him to act normal again. I blame him and he blames me. I dont think the theory snd practice of psychotherapy takes this into account, except to put the onus on the client to be as open and honest as possible always.