Thanks. I don't think you understand this at all. You've simply assumed that I want a relationship with him at any cost. That I would risk causing him more harm to do that. That couldn't be farther from the truth.

My post is not very well written. I was in a hurry.. plus I was writing too many details. I described the day and what was said to understand if it could be a switch. That could have caused him to over react, flee, have memory loss etc.
The second paragraph is in continuation from the first. I read it and realized how wrong it sounds.. I kept going to him not when he didn't want me to or asked me not to. I used to meet him to first talk, communicate,, after years of silence from both our ends. Each time he came to meet me, he gave me all his time. He guided me every time I wanted advice. He told me many things weren't my fault. It isn't easy to say sorry for something you did that wasn't in your control. But I had to because he was hurt by it.
So, that's not stalking. Please calm down. I did use the word "stalk" in my last post, but I explained why. I got his number, not through his friends, but from his profile. I used to berate myself all the time, but that was my sickness.. some things don't go away easy..i happened to write it again even though I shouldn't carry guilt for it. And you gave it glory, but telling me about the law. Thanks.

Anyway, my post doesn't indicate that I want to get back in contact against his wishes and make him get therapy and get better for me.

Thank you for getting personal and for suggesting therapy to someone who's already in therapy. Also, for presuming that I haven't found any happiness away from him. On a scale of 1 to 10, 10 being the kindest, that was probably 100000.
I decided to do this now, so many years later, because I was working on feeling better. It took me 3 years. I still go to my therapist once a month, but I don't depend on it.
Also, thanks for mentioning I could be arrested in the US, wonderful! really, how do you take time to do this. I am not a criminal, trying to have my way with him.

I am not trying to get back into his life, by being the one to suggest therapy. My purpose of sharing details on a public forum like this, was
1. to get insight on the problem..
Nothing in your post tells me more about DID or alters.

2. There is a lot of stigma around any mental disorders in India, probably worse than it is in the US. With men, it's just considered weakness.

3. To hopefully get an answer from someone who has alters and understands that not giving up is important. Every time I got back in touch, he was happy I came back. He was happy I remembered so much. He was unsure of the future and too careful..so was I. It took both of us time to open up. But we opened up about our lives and told each other about the most important people and things in our lives.

3. Also, I concluded that he's blocked me coz I don't see him on gtalk... that's a sense I have carried.. we drifted apart. When he spoke to me a month ago, he didn't say I'm done.. or i'm sorry or don't call me.. or anything like that. He replied to my texts a month ago. I just don't see him on gtalk. I told myself that because I realized years ago I needed to look after myself. Be happy first before I think of anyone else. I did that. I am not delusional or stubborn to the point that I will not take "No" for an answer. I have wasted enough time suffering. But I will not give up on him because he has a problem and we lost our way to each other.

I haven't mentioned but I got emails and texts from ids with his nicknames about getting back in touch. Texts similar to those I sent to him, when I was lost and didn't know how to get back in touch.. just sth saying "lets catch up for lunch" " will I see you today?" Only now, I understand that it could be his alters.

You are making me regret replying to you. I don't mean to indicate that you're a mean person in any way. I just want to understand what DID can be like.. and if I can reach out to him without offending him and/or be ready for when he's back. For people in relationships/friends/family of anyone with alters, it is difficult and it takes a lot. I want to be prepared.