mentalpollution--I don't know you like the others here seem to, but I do know you've been through some tough times & people here (myself , too, have reponded) so know that you have many caring people here to support you through this difficult time. From all the info. you have gotten so far this sounds bad to me. I would be very concerned, asyou are, about my husband, what his intentions are, where his loyalties lie, & how the marriage can be healed. I would be devastated & probably couldn't think straight. I just know how hurt you must be. I don't have any good advice. I would be a basket case, but I tend to be very fragile. Maybe you are made of stronger stuff than I am.--Suzy