Dear Skywhite,

I had an arrangement with my psychologist that I could email ocassionally in between appts. I found this incredibly helpful in both discharging painful feelings, and organising my thoughts for the next appt. It was not necessary for him to reply in depth, and he made me aware that this was not possible anyway, however he usually acknowledged the email. It might be worth asking if your therapist would accept this type of "add-on" to the treatment.

EDIT: incidentially, I am also dealing with complex trauma and bpd. I think these conditions make emotion management quite difficult at times, and we often need some out-of-the-box approaches to treatment. For example, I knew I required a male in order to model a healthy father-daughter relationship for me. Also, what I said about emailing in between - I can talk very matter of factly about what happened to me in my childhood, without connectoing to the emotions of it - they come later in the day and the day is usually a write-off, so I find I am alone when I most need my therapist. The emails helped bridge this issue, and now, I rarely feel the need to email, unless it is to note something I feel is important that I may forget for next appt (I have pretty bad memory loss at times).